Independence and Autonomy: Impact on Immigrant Family Connections

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The idea of independence and autonomy had played a great role in destroying family connections across generations. Immigrant families have been coming to the United States for decades now. The connections across the family members in generations are not as they used to be because of the concept of independence and autonomy. This idea has damaged family connections by causing a huge gap among generations. In the article “Unaccustomed Earth” the author Jhumpa Lahiri presents an immigrant family that struggled in maintaining its connections from being lost by the problems caused by the idea of independence and autonomy. Lahiri states that after the death of Ruma’s mother, Ruma’s relationship with her father took its worst form because of the communications …show more content…

She adds that this closeness led to more conflicts after Dadu rejected the offer Ruma made for him to stay with them. Lahiri concludes that Dadu’s decision had crushed Ruma’s and her son’s hope of developing the bond further more. Consequently, Independence and autonomy were harmful to Ruma’s family because it crashed the relationship Ruma had with her father despite the efforts made by Ruma, and it destroyed Akash’s hope in developing the bond he started to develop with his grandparent. First of all, this concept of independence and autonomy had played a major part on the loss of connection between Ruma and Dadu, and destroyed the relationship they had. The author explains that the loss of connections between Ruma and her father, Dadu, was caused by the newly found Dadu’s independence and not having family responsibility, and not bothering to communicate frequently to his daughter. She says, “After her mother’s death it was Ruma who assumed the duty of speaking to her father every evening, asking how his day had gone” (4). This shows that the communication was only one sided, and Dadu’s independence made it for him not to take interest in contacting

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