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Context: A dispute my wife and me were having at the house about her father. This touchy subject always has differences in opinion.
Interaction: My wife and I were debating on when we wanted her father to come up to New York so he could visit. She wanted her father to visit us around Christmas that way her oldest sister could take time off of work and accompany him up here because he is hard of hearing. The conflict started when she insisted that we get her father a chaperon for the flight from Texas to New York or if she may travel to Texas and accompany him back up here. The reason for this was because of the fact her sister could not take leave from work, and my wife did not feel comfortable with her father traveling alone. I replied "No, that is unnecessary" and enlightened her on how I felt. Her father is a grown man, I stated. He works for a construction company, pays almost all of his bills, and provides for himself to maintain his well-being; why does he need help traveling from one place to the other? His disability does not prevent him to see neither does it prevent him to interpret what people are trying to tell him since he can read lips and has a hearing device that costs thousands of dollars. With regard to what was just said, I think she does not need to coddle him all of the time. My wife did not take my input well. She informed me that it is not about if he can go to the store and purchase groceries or if he can work, the problem is him not being able to accurately comprehend what people are saying most of the time and it may hinder him from getting on the correct flight. Lastly, she informed me that her father is sensitive to the disability he has. As the conversation was coming to a closure, I r...
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...ds of others. The reason could be from people wanting to gain popularity amongst others to being perceived as reasonable, eventually sometimes making you compromise yourself.
According to accommodation, my decision reflected that I gave into the demands of my wife in which showed her I am reasonable and care for the both of them. In order for one of us to win the other one has to lose. I allowed my wife to have her way just because it wasnt that big of a dispute, as there was no reason to make a minor conflict into something outrageous. I want my wife to know that I am here to support her and show her that I do care for the safety of her and her family. This will not be the last time my wife and I encounter this conflict about her father but I can be sure it will not be the same result. I do not want my wife to think that I will always accommodate to her needs.
It has been researched that when one person says something others rally behind it and convince themselves that it is true.
It often leads to people adjusting responses to stimuli just because they believe that if everyone else has the same response they must have it too. This is shown in "Asch Experiment" after McLeod explained how the dot of light never moved, he mentioned, "The participants are then asked to estimate how far the dot of light moves. These estimates are made out loud, and with repeated trials, each group of three converges on an estimate. The main finding of the study was that groups found their own "social norm" of perception." (McLeod 2) This shows that when placed in an environment where some people have a different opinion than others, the popular opinion takes over and everyone's opinion becomes uniform because people doubt themselves when they are alone on an opinion, leading to conformity. People in environments like this should try to keep their own opinions as to prevent the spread of conformity when uniqueness is
Another point I agree with is that it's a lot easier to just fit in and not lead the train and being yourself. I personally know from experience. Growing up I always tried to conform just to fit in with the people that surrounded me. It's not just me that i've seen conform to fit in, i've seen many of my friends conform to fit in with the crowd. All around me, everyday people are conforming and changing to fit in with the society.
agreed to do as she is told but has given an answer which will please
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. . .” implies the narrator can only see through so much of the door, his sight is restricted to only his father. This allows for a very strong description of his father in the moment. The narrators’ father was walking towards his bedroom with his back to his wife. He had clearly dismissed his wife’s’ argument until she cruelly remarked “Well, I hope you 'll be satisfied when they come home knocked up and you 'll have had your way.” (Alistair Macleod 229). Without stopping, revealing how shocked he was to hear this, he turns around. He is mid stride, but so taken back that he spins to face her. The offence that he feels is a result of his opinion that it would be best for his children to find a better way of life than his own. His children have an opportunity for a much more fulfilling life and he wants nothing more than for them to pursue it. This would seemingly be a goodtime for him to explain to his wife the way he feels; instead he holds it in, knowing that she would not understand. By turning back around without saying a word the only statement he makes is that he is mad. In this moment he is described as looking old and hard worked, though very
The astute reader may notice that this review does not include any papers that did not find a false consensus effect. The reason for this is not that this paper is not representative of the literature, but rather, that it is. The uniformity of the literature suggests that the phenomenon is fairly common. Some interesting arguments as to why this is are motivational or cognitive in nature. The motivational premise is based in the idea that people are motivated to believe that they have a place in their social environment. This argument is a based in self-justification, in that if many people share a given belief or behavior, it makes it easier to justify that this attitude or behavior is either right, or not as bad as it might seem.
Dadi speaks on the importance of the mother in law, the mother in law was to be respected in any way possible when you were a new daughter in law. If the mother in law was not respected the husband would teach the wife a lesson for not respecting his mother. Now, daughter in laws exert their power towards not only their mother in law but also their husband. In early era, daughter in laws used to fear their mother in laws as they were not to speak up for themselves on how they were treated, as Dadi explains. As times has changed we see a difference on how Dadi speaks on her experiences to what we see now with the interaction with the daughter in laws and her family in law. We see Darshini as someone who speaks up towards her mother in law. Darshini feels the amount of work they have to do is all because of Dadi. Dadi is also seen talking poorly on her daughter in law Sita, and Darshini is quick to put Dadi in her place and tell her to stop and get back to work. The use of speaking back to one’s mother in law is one huge difference on how women were timid and how times have changed, daughter in laws have become more out spoken and confident to talk back. Dadi expresses that no one listens to the mother in law now. If the same energy was used in Dadi’s era, the women would quickly be beaten for being disrespectful. Dadi let us know that
When her husband came home she had to become a caretaker of him and a mediator between him and other people, especially the children. Now that her husband is back she is having difficulties keeping up with the new demands on her role as a wife. She wants to be there for him while he is struggling through his issues, but he does not want to comfort that she is offering. She also needs support from him for what she went through (Knobloch & Theiss, 2012). There was one scene when she was talking with her two daughters about their father and why he was behaving the way he was. She was trying to explain behavior that she did not even really understand herself, but she tried to support and understand him even when it became very difficult to do. In Knobloch and Theiss’ article, they say that partners must manage strong emotions and try to share their experiences. During the reunion period when the soldier comes home it is very difficult to do those things and the partner must be able to deal with it, and it may be very difficult, like it is for the wife in this
There are two reason can explain why people conform .First one is normative social influence and information social influence . Normative social influence is one kind of type for social influence leading conformity ,people think that oth...
They are appealing to a standard of behaviour that many people require others to follow. When people are fighting, they
So why do people conform? Psychologists believe there are two main reasons: normative influence and informative influence. Kaplan and Miller define normative influence as conforming due to “concerns about the group and one’s position in it,” and informative influence as conforming due to “concerns about being accurate and arriving at correct solutions” (Kaplan and Miller, 1987).
Being the social animals, humans need a sense of belonging in a society. Therefore, people are willing to do anything to fit in and to avoid a social punishment, including, changing their
Well for me, I noticed that, whether it was deciding where to hangout with my friends, saying yes just to not start a disagreement. Or in class when my opinions differ sometimes I just go along with what everyone else is saying so I’m not left out. I would have to identify myself as a conformist in this context. It intrigued me to write about how people can be so easily led into pushing down their own beliefs to agree with everyone else in a social setting or private group. In other words Conformity is when a person changes their view on something or their behavior in certain ways to fit in with the particular group norm. It could be anywhere, whether in class or at work during a meeting. Factors that can influence feelings of certain pressure and insecurity can lead to conformity. Group size also plays an important role. The influence can decrease if there are more than 3-4
People do this to rebel or fit in the society they live in, others do