Summary Of If I Grow Up By Alex Kotlowitz

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The impetus for the title of this book by Alex Kotlowitz is a quote from the mother of Lafeyette and Pharoah, two young boys who are growing up in a Chicago public housing project in the 1980s. The mother said, “But you know, there are no children here. They’ve seen too much to be children” (Kotlowitz, p. 12). Lafeyette is twelve, and he has had to learn a lot about the world just by taking care of Pharoah as well as three younger siblings. He tells the author, “If I grow up, I’d like to be a bus driver.” In the vast majority of children, that sentence would begin with the word “When.” The fact that he uses the word “If” means that he really does not know if he will make it into adulthood. There has been a lot of anger in the media lately …show more content…

If you walk into a classroom full of kindergarteners and ask them what they want to be, you won’t hear words like “gangbanger” or “drug dealer.” You will hear big aspirations like “doctor.” “Astronaut.” “Artist.” The dreams of children are powerful, but in places like the project where Lafeyette and Pharoah are growing up, those dreams die early on. Their families are caught in the clutches of generational poverty without any clear path out. They lack exposure to many of the strategies that people in other parts of the world have to manage their own lives. Because they are constantly moving from one crisis to the next, these children truly never have the chance to enjoy being small and young. They don’t have the kind of protection in place that they deserve to have, and that distorts their progression toward adulthood. They get used to living in constant fear and stress, and they think that life will always be that way. Unfortunately, too many of these lives end before the children even have the chance to move out of the apartment where they have been crammed along with all of their siblings, a parent (not two in so many cases) and perhaps even a grandparent and other family members. Instead, they die too young from the ongoing epidemic of violence. These are children who never have a real chance to succeed. This is …show more content…

As the oldest child in the family, he is often expected to be a proxy sort of adult and take on responsibilities that are well above what he should have to do. In the first summer that the book details, 57 children were mowed down as gang wars raged in the apartment complex. That means that there were 57 small coffins that had to be buried because the gang wars couldn’t stop taking collateral damage. This is why LaJoe, Lafeyette and Pharoah’s mother, pays almost 10% of her welfare check each month to buy burial insurance for all five of her children. She is so certain that something awful is going to happen to them that she is willing to risk her family’s financial future in order to make certain that she has enough money on hand to pay for a funeral when the time comes. Through the course of the book, Lafeyette personally sees seven people get murdered. Some of them are his friends. This is why he has concluded, by the end of the narrative, that he does not have friends – only acquaintances. Developing friendships in this sort of context is almost a waste of time, because you don’t know who the gang wars are going to claim next. Forming those sorts of emotional attachments is, for this young man, an investment that is not worth its while because you simply don’t know how long your friends will be around – even alive. You don’t want to have to go through the pain of losing another friend to another

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